Your Views on Gay Marriage
I am going to talk about an issue tangentially related to gay marriage, my views on sexuality. Because, at the core, I think that’s what this topic is really about–how one views sexual identity. People who oppose gay marriage usually do so because they see homosexuality as inherently wrong or sinful. Those who don’t oppose it generally view homosexuality as a natural inclination some people have.
During my senior year of college, I thought a lot about my sexual orientation. I’ve never had a significant other, either boy or girl. Then I wondered if I was straight because I was conditioned to be straight or if I was naturally straight.
I concluded that there are degrees. I don’t think most people are 100% straight or 100% gay. Some people might be because they were conditioned that way. Others are naturally that way. But I think most people are bisexual, but not necessarily in an equal way. For instance, I think I might be 60% straight and 40% gay, or perhaps 70%/30%. (I would never admit this to anyone in real life, as most people I know would be mortified.) I am more attracted to men than I am to women, but occasionally I can be attracted to a woman as well.
For me, though, I don’t think gender is that big of a deal. I would fall in love with someone because of their mind and personality, not because of their appearance. Don’t get me wrong–I would appreciate their appearance. But I find that people seem to become more physically attractive the more attractive their other aspects are. And vice versa–if someone has a repulsive personality, that person becomes physically ugly to me even if they’re objectively good-looking.
This is probably a long way of saying I support gay marriage, just as I support straight marriage. I really don’t care. I grew up in (and continue to live in) conservative country, and some people I know would conclude that no one would support gay marriage unless they were gay themselves. This makes no sense to me. It’s like saying no one would care about racial equality unless they were a member of another race. With many people, that simply is not the case. I don’t have to have the characteristics of a population group to support their rights.
Some people like to use the Bible to argue that homosexuality is a sin. There are many other rules in the Bible, however, that society no longer follows. And people can twist the Bible into making it say what they want. In the past, people used the Bible to support slavery and racism. Some people continue to use it to argue for a more traditional division of gender roles.
I could say more about this subject, but I suppose that would belong in the next day of truth, the one about religion or politics. (Guess which one I’ll be talking about? Ha.)
(P.S. I am going on another one of those visiting my family trips for the next two weeks. If I don’t seem to be on here, that’s why. That and my inability to focus in general.)